初次見面的老外跟你說了句"how do you do", 估計(jì)多數(shù)人都會(huì)美滋滋地搬出學(xué)校教的那套，回敬一句"how do you do"。可英美人士卻覺得你的回答有點(diǎn)買帽子當(dāng)鞋穿--不對(duì)頭。因?yàn)樗麄儠?huì)覺得對(duì)話似乎沒有得到回應(yīng)，好像你并不高興見到他一樣。所以，當(dāng)別人說"how do you do"的時(shí)候，你最好改答"nice to meet you"或者"it"s a pleasure to meet you"。
　　怎么樣，是不是覺得上面的小技巧還有點(diǎn)用處？那么，你知道怎么掌控好一個(gè)初次見面的開場(chǎng)白嗎？還有誰先開口，說什么，怎樣繼續(xù)話題？要不要握手呢？別著急，我現(xiàn)在就告訴大家一些社交小技巧。它們可以讓你在不同的場(chǎng)合游刃有余，溝通無極限。
　　先來看一段jake和debbie之間的對(duì)話吧。大姑娘上花轎--頭一回，這兩個(gè)大一新生在校園里初次碰面了。
　　jake: hi! my name is jake. we haven"t met before, have we?
　　debbie: no, we haven"t! my name is debbie.
　　jake: nice to meet you, debbie!
　　debbie: nice to meet you, too, jake.
　　jake: are you a new student?
　　debbie: yes, i am. what about you?
　　jake: yeah, me too!
　　jake: what"re you studying here?
　　debbie: journalism. i want to be a journalist. what about you?
　　jake: i"m doing law. but i"m thinking of doing business studies instead.
　　debbie: do they allow you to change?
　　見機(jī)行事，見什么人說什么話。jake和debbie之間的對(duì)話適用于什么場(chǎng)合呢？
　　他們的對(duì)話適用于非正式場(chǎng)合。
　　因?yàn)椋?br>　　1 jake使用了hi這個(gè)問候詞。這個(gè)詞適用于比較隨意的場(chǎng)合或者正式場(chǎng)合下彼此非常熟識(shí)的人之間。
　　2 jake和debbie在介紹自己和稱呼對(duì)方的時(shí)候都在用彼此名字的第一個(gè)字。如果兩人第一次見面就直接用名字的第一個(gè)字相互稱呼，這就暗示他們想讓接下來的談話無拘無束，閑散自在一些。
　　3 兩個(gè)人談話的語氣和內(nèi)容都顯得輕松，隨意。
　　再來看一段james taylor和wang dong之間的對(duì)話。james taylor是aec advertising 的總裁，wang dong是china bright advertising company 外事處的秘書。她負(fù)責(zé)到機(jī)場(chǎng)去接從未謀面的james taylor。
　　wang dong: good morning. are you james taylor?
　　james taylor: yes, and ...
　　wang dong: welcome to beijing, president taylor. i"m wang dong, the secretary of the foreign affairs office from china bright advertising company. please call me wang.
　　james taylor: oh, nice to meet you, wang.
　　wang dong: nice to meet you, too. how was the flight?
　　james taylor: it was ok, though i feel a bit tired.
　　wang dong: would you like me to help you with the luggage?
　　james taylor: oh, thank you.
　　wang dong: please follow me to the gate. the company car is waiting for you outside.
　　大家已經(jīng)意識(shí)到了吧，這段對(duì)話適用于正式的社交場(chǎng)合。